Carlos Xuma – How To Talk To Women

Carlos Xuma – How To Talk To Women

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Attention: Single Man…

I have some bad news – and some good news for you.

First the BAD NEWS: Every bit of advice you’ve probably ever heard about talking to women is GARBAGE.

Worse than that, what you’ve been told about how to talk to women is not only bad advice, it’s probably sabotaged and hurt your ability to attract women.

In fact, the most misleading and damaging “advice” you’ve ever gotten about how to talk to women you probably learned from… A WOMAN.

She probably meant well, but what you heard has probably set you way back. It’s probably the most destructive information you could use to attract women, hands down.

But it’s not your fault…

The Good News is this: You can fix the damage very quickly once you know what bad techniques are crippling you.

Here’s why it’s absolutely imperative that you discover and eliminate this bad advice…

Most Guys Don’t Know This: Women Are Testing You While You Think You’re Just Talking…

That’s right – while YOU are just trying to be cool and have some fun conversation, SHE is running through a mental checklist on you.

Do you know what she’s looking for?

Do you know how to pass those tests along the way?

In this report, I’m going to reveal the three reasons women test you – and how you can not only avoid failing them – but pass them so well that YOU get to be the one testing HER.

That’s right. She will now need to prove herself to YOU for a change.

And you’ll discover how you can talk to women so that you will:

1) Get her turned on and attracted to you

2) Get her phone number (or contact information) in less than 10 minutes

3) Get a guaranteed date with her within 24 hours

Let me ask you something…

Have You Ever Had This Happen To You
When You Were Talking To A Woman…?

Look, if you’re like me, this is probably one of the most frustrating parts about meeting and attracting women…

You FINALLY work up the courage to approach an attractive woman, and you start talking to her.

And then something like this happens…

She starts to seem bored. She won’t help the conversation along at all – like the burden of the conversation is entirely on you. She just gives off a vibe like you talking to you is a nuisance. At the first uncomfortable silence in the conversation (which happens really fast), you politely leave. You feel disrespected – and a little pissed off…

OR

She seems friendly enough, but she either gets distracted by her friends and their little inside jokes, or she just talks about herself. Eventually she goes back to talking to her friends – ignoring you – and leaving you feeling left out and rejected…

OR

The conversation starts out fun and friendly. You talk for a little bit, and when the time is right you ask “Can I get your phone number?” And then she either hesitates, or asks you, “Why do you need it?” – Or she makes up some lame excuse like she doesn’t have a cell phone.
Or maybe she just tells you she “has a boyfriend.”

What usually happens is that you feel so uncomfortable and awkward that you wind up ejecting as soon as you possibly can from the conversation.

You Know It Wasn’t Your Fault…

But she leaves you feeling like YOU were the one that screwed up.

When you look back on those situations, you know you weren’t being a jerk. You were just trying to start up a conversation. (But the voice of doubt in the back of your head says you must have done SOMETHING wrong…)

Here’s what you don’t know about those situations…

1) You might think that she rejected you based on your looks…
– but the truth is that she does this sort of thing to almost every guy that approaches her…

2) You might think that you did or said something wrong when you approached her…
– but the fact is that she was already running a script in her head long before you approached.

3) You might think that she’s a bitch based on her cold, defensive reaction to you…
– but the reality is that she’s actually probably pretty cool – if she wasn’t keeping her guard up…

4) What you don’t know is that she was testing you the whole time.

FACT: Every first conversation with a woman is a test she’s giving you.

If you pass, she’ll let you move forward to the next step.

But if you fail, you’re OUT.

Here’s What Most Guys Don’t Know
About Talking With Women:

Everything out of her mouth is actually a test.

The problem is that most guys try to pass women’s tests without knowing how they work.

…or knowing what her test questions even are.

You see, after a woman says something to you, she watches for your reaction to it. And she listens to how you reply.

She listens very close…

Let me say that again, because it’s a critical rule for how to talk to women:

Women don’t really care what you say to them…What she’s secretly watching for is  how you react and reply to what she says to you.

And that’s why you MUST know the rules of how to talk to women to get anywhere with them – much less getting her into the bedroom.

Because it’s not just knowing how to talk to women when you first meet them. It’s every time you talk to women – on the first date, the third date… ANYTIME.

If you decide to keep this girl as your girlfriend, then you’re going to need to pass a bunch more of her tests.

Just remember: As long as you know how to pass her tests, she will stay with you.

Because every decision a woman makes about you comes from talking with you.

– Not how much you spent on dinner…

– Not what kind of car you drive…

– Not how ripped your abs are…

Nope.

Her attraction is based on how you respond to her tests in conversation.

It’s all about you knowing how to talk to women…!

Now I probably shouldn’t do this, but…

I’m Going To Reveal The Truth That
No Woman Will Ever Tell You…

Even if she really wanted to, there are things that no woman would disclose.

That’s why I’m going to show you why you’ve failed in the past with women again and again, and why you’ll keep failing unless you listen to what I’m going to tell you.

My name is Carlos Xuma. I’ve been on ABC and CBS TV, Playboy Radio, FHM, Maxim Magazine and Radio, more blogs than I can count, more radio and magazine articles that I can remember.

I’m an internationally known dating expert who has helped tens of thousands of men attract women, connect with women, and succeed in every way with women…

But more important for you is that I’m a guy who has spent over 15 years interviewing women, creating systems for attracting women – and then meticulously perfecting them for other guys like you to use.

Fast, simple, and unusually effective systems that any guy can use.

What I’m going to reveal to you right now will probably change your life forever, open your eyes to some shocking facts about how women work, and give you an almost dangerous seductive power with women.

I’m sure you’ve already felt the frustration of talking to a woman you met, a woman you found attractive and desirable, but you couldn’t make the conversation go anywhere with her, right?

Well, you have to know…

What She’s NOT Telling You…

The only way to win this game with women – to get the woman you want – is to know what she won’t tell you.

The only way to win is to know what she’s really thinking about when you’re talking to her, so you can hook her interest and – well… keep her almost obsessed with you.

But if you don’t move quickly, if you don’t act now you could miss your chance forever to have women who will fight over each other just to be with you – to be that guy she wants to be with more than anything, and will do anything to possess.

In fact, right now, as you’re reading this, you’ve already got the right skills to be sexually powerful with women.

All you need to do is to take a minute to listen to what I tell you, do what I tell you in the next few minutes, and you’ll gain an amazing and almost supernatural ability to connect and attract women on a sexual level.

She’ll be about as easy to read as a first grade math book…

And she’ll always be excited to see you and desperate for the next time to get together with you.

Even if she’s got her defensive shields up and doesn’t seem approachable, I’ll tell you exactly what to do to get past this obstacle.

But first…

I Need To Tell You About The
Crazy Story Of How I Got Here…

It all began one Sunday when I was out eating lunch with Eva, a Russian model friend of mine.

The night before, I’d had a really bad night out at a bar, talking with at least a half dozen women, and I didn’t get anywhere with any of them. No phone numbers. No action. Nothing.

You could say I was pretty burned out on talking to women. I felt like pounding my head against a concrete wall.

That’s when I figured I had nothing to lose by asking Eva one simple and innocent question:

“What do women want us guys to talk about?”

Do they want men to:

– Compliment her?

– Tell her a story?

– Tell her a joke?

– Give her my history and background?

– Warm her up with small talk?

– Impress her with my accomplishments?

– Flatter her?

“What is it women want?” I asked her. (I’m sure my frustration was obvious in my voice.)

Here’s what Eva told me:

“I just want a man who listens to me, and makes me laugh. He has to smile, and show me that he’s sensitive.”

You have to understand that Eva’s boyfriend – Steve – was a friend of mine. I was there when they met at a friend’s party.

And Steve did NONE of those things that night. He didn’t really listen to her all that much, maybe made her laugh once or twice, didn’t smile at all, and he’s the least sensitive guy I know.

Yet now Eva is so stuck on Steve that you practically have to peel her off of his leg so that you could talk to him.

Oh, and in case you think it was because Steve is hot, he’s NOT. He’s at least 40 pounds overweight with not much hair.

And he’s 15 years older than her.

And he works at an electronics store in the home theater section. Definitely not rich.

So it was obvious that Eva had no clue about what women want.

But I wasn’t discouraged. I decided I needed to go straight to the source.

That’s right…

I Decided To Go Ask Women What To Say And How To Talk To Women…

This turned out to be the worst idea for the best solution I could have possibly discovered.

I got on the phone that Sunday night (a great time of the week to reach women on the phone, by the way), and I called up a few of my female friends to ask them about this – and this is what they told me they wanted:

“I want him to make me laugh…” – Vanita
“He has to show me that he’s talking to ME, that I’m unique and special…” – Megan
“I have to trust him. I gotta know he’s not a jerk.” – Linda
“He can’t be fake.” – Chanelle
“He’s gotta show interest in me, and keep his eyes from wandering!” – Gina

Now I bet you’ve got one burning question on your mind right now, don’t you?

How the heck do I DO that?!?

Because when I asked each of those women this question: “WHAT – exactly – should a guy say to you?”

…amazingly, they all got very very quiet.

So I discovered something that fateful day:

Beautiful Women Don’t Have A Clue About What Turns Them On In Conversation…

Hot women don’t know what it is guys say that gets them attracted to men.

Especially sexually attracted…

It’s not that women are mean or evil or out to get us. They’re not deliberately TRYING to mislead us when they tell us this stuff.

She just can’t explain in words what her emotional mind desires. And unfortunately, women are just as bad as guys are at explaining this sort of thing in words.

And when I asked this ONE simple question that every guy wants to know, most women couldn’t even begin to answer it.

I Asked Them:”What should a guy SAY to you?”

They would try to tell you how they wanted the conversation to FEEL (which was totally confusing) – when we guys just need to know WHAT to talk about with her.

And THAT was the one big difference right there. Bing! – that lit up a thousand-watt light bulb in my head.

–> You want to know WHAT to say to get her attracted…

–> Women only care about HOW you talk to her so she can decide if you pass her tests…

So grab a pen and paper …

Here Are 3 Reasons Women Test Men…

Why women test you – Reason #1) Women test men to get attention and feel in control.

We all do this to some degree, but some women play head games with a man in order to keep him chasing after her to boost her ego and make herself feel valuable.

Sometimes these women are attracted to you, but sometimes you need to beware of the ones playing games.

By the way, I’m going show you how to avoid these dangerous women…

Then comes:

Why Women Test You – Reason #2) Women test you as a screening and defensive process.

Women HATE being taken for granted.

Ask any woman about this and she will agree 200%.

One of the greatest fears that a woman has is that she will give her heart to a man too easily, and that he will take her for granted and break her heart.

Women confuse guys, appear disinterested, and act evasive at times so that they can communicate to men that they can’t be taken for granted.

And finally:

Why Women Test You – Reason #3) She tests you to “figure you out.”

Most women, especially beautiful women who are accustomed to being approached all the time, come up with ways to try to “figure out” men by watching certain behaviors.

Or by telling guys things – and then judging them according to how they react to her.

In short, women ‘test’ men to see into his head… especially guys who they feel some attraction to.

Sometimes they’re testing you on purpose, sometimes unknowingly.

You know by now that women are attracted to men who are a challenge – and they’re uninterested in men who show too much interest, or guys are too needy.

She tests you by putting you in a situation to find out whether you’re needy and insecure – or if you’re confident.

She might start talking to her girlfriends while you’re talking to her just to see how you handle it. She just has to wait and let you show your true colors.

So you need to WELCOME her tests as a good sign that she’s interested.

Because if you pass her tests, she will be ATTRACTED to you. Turned on, in fact.

This Is The Only Sure-Fire Way To Create Attration
That Doesn’t Involve Games And Manipulation…

Now when I figured out that her tests were a GOOD sign – it was a huge breakthrough. And in that moment, I knew exactly what I had to do:

I had to show guys WHAT to say so that they could pass women’s tests with flying colors – AND create interest and attraction from the woman at the same time.

So I got to work.

And yeah – it was WORK.

I went out and approached women, talked to women, and took a lot of notes on what worked – and what didn’t work. I compiled over 60 notebooks over the course of 14 months.

I Discovered That There Was A Formula For
What Worked With Women…

And it was a formula that was easy to duplicated.

You don’t need to memorize scripts or “routines” to talk to women. You just need to use simple formulas – like ingredients in a recipe – and you’ll have no problems.

Oh, occasionally there were a few women who didn’t respond – but they were women who wouldn’t have responded to ANY guy.

The point was that I had found a simple, fast, and very effective system – a blueprint for conversation that any guy could use.

And then I basically worked myself sick creating a step-by-step training program out of this research. What finally emerged was eight powerful and easy to use lessons for how to talk to women – presented in written form, audio, and video.

This program covers all the big questions about how to talk to women that guys have been wanting answers for years about what women really want to hear you say.

Plus all the dirty secrets of what women’s sexual hot buttons are to turn women on with conversation that really fires up the attraction.

All of this has been put together into an exclusive training program I proudly call:

How To Talk To Women: Turn Her On In Conversation…

When it was ready, I showed this program to a very small, elite group of my closest friends and best customers.

Peter K. in Alabama says: “…Carlos, you’re the MAN… I’m serious man, girls are now looking at me, calling out after me, waving at me in class, approaching ME and want to find out what I’M about.

“You helped me go from needy boy to centered man who doesn’t crave attention and give up my energy… and this is all about a WHOLE LOT MORE than just seduction.

“Thanks man – Deep Love to you… I can’t thank you enough, man”

Vince says: “I had no idea how to act or talk around women. When I used Carlos’ program I was skeptical at first, though I listened to the audio twice, took notes and began to realize that what he was saying was right.

“So I went over to her apartment, played it cool, and kissed a girl for the first time as well as lost my virginity.

“I’d tell guys to give it a chance, knowledge is power.

“Why did I not find you and your programs sooner!?”

Robert in Australia says: “I did not know how to approach and talk to strange women… A noticeable change in the way women reacted to me… And I was finally getting phone number and dates… Your programs are very well presented, clear and precise. Thanks for the info… It works! It really does man!”

Sean in Ireland says: “My confidence has made an improvement… It completely changes the way you talk to women. understanding how women think and are attracted to men gives you a huge advantage.”

Now Here’s The Part That’s Really Cool…

I decided to show this program to the women in my life that I trusted to get some feedback from them. (Including those women I called up that fateful Sunday night to ask them how to talk to women.)

Most of the women were – at first – shocked and a little defensive.

Some were even a bit angry and offended.

Only THE MOST HONEST women will ever admit that they test guys. Most of them will deny it. Or they deny that it happens as frequently as it does.

But then these women relaxed and went through the content and discovered that I was not only speaking from the heart – I was also speaking the truth.

And they all agreed that if guys would just put aside their egos for a few minutes and use this information, they’d be ten times more successful approaching women, meeting women, getting phone numbers, and getting dates.

Hands down, flat-out SUPER successful.

Because here’s my promise to you: If you can log in to a website and just watch some simple videos, you can make a massive transformation in your ability to talk to women and attract women in conversation in just a few short weeks.

So you never have to go through that “let’s just be friends” talk with a woman ever again.

Here is what you will discover when you enroll in the: How To Talk To Women: Turn Her On In Conversation program:

Here’s What I’m Going To Show You…

In the “How To Talk To Women” system, I’m going to explain all the core Secret Keys to conversation with women.

There are 6 Core Video Modules, and 4 Bonus Video Modules, 1 Bonus Audio, and 2 Bonus reference e-books with your program.

Here’s what you’re going to find in this easy to use system of how to talk to women:

VIDEO MODULE 1: Foundation & Secret Keys

3 key areas that impact how your conversation goes with women – and you would never guess that these would make or break your conversations with women…
Discover the one subject you must use when you talk to women that builds the deepest rapport – and ironically you would never think to use…
How a woman intuitively guesses how confident you are when you’re talking to her, and how to use this to your advantage in any conversation so you come across as the “dominant” male…
There’s a lot of theory and “models” and methods out there, but for the first time you’ll know exactly what ONE thing you need to focus on most when you talk with women – and if you don’t get this one thing, you will never get the girl…
The 3 Core Elements of Conversation – which I will teach you to use effectively – and in the right order…
I’ll show you the big mistake that guys make when they try to get a woman to have fun that sabotages the connection between them, and usually leaves him alone at the end of the night…
The concrete evidence to look for to know if your “banter” with a woman is working…
What you don’t know about “being funny” and using humor with women – and how most other guys fail to get a woman interested when they make this critical error…
You’ve probably heard about “push-pull” when you talk with women, but do you know how it REALLY works? When and how do you do this? I’ll teach you all the techniques, and why this is the most misunderstood area of attraction…
The one part of conversation and attraction with a woman that you cannot fake! If you do, she’ll see right through you instantly. Do it right and you can avoid feeling vulnerable and exposed…
Your one single “Supertool” for keeping control of the conversation, and controlling how a woman feels so that things don’t go haywire when you’re in the middle of talking to her. This is your “Undo” button for the conversation…
The one technique you must use before trying to gain a woman’s trust… this is why most guys fall into the friends zone too quick…
And MUCH more…

VIDEO MODULE 2: Fearless Flow – Conversation Confidence

How hard should you work to get her talking to you? You may even wonder if she’s even into you at all. I’ll teach you how much effort to put into talking to women, and what to watch for to tell you when to stay and when to go…
Why women play hard to get in conversations, and how you handle it…
The part of the conversation you should be focusing when you approach women, and how a conversation can be lost in the first 20 seconds if a guy doesn’t know how to handle this one key area…
How long the “opener” should last, and where you MUST go right away after you’ve started the conversation if you want to keep her interest…
How “approach anxiety” is created – and it has nothing to do with your approach! This is how to get yourself talking with women without feeling like you have to puke every single time…
Do you ever wonder if you’re too laid back? Too fidgety? How much excitement is enough? I’ll explain this in the section on “Conversation Flow and Dynamics…”
One Simple Finishing Technique that – if you start using it now – you’ll double or triple the number of approaches that turn into a date – and first-time dates that turn into another one…
And MUCH more…

VIDEO MODULE 3: Effortless Communication: How To Never Run Out Of Things To Say

How to win the inner game of conversation – why guys have problems talking to women and how to get past your inner mental blocks and anxiety in conversation with women…
Ever had that “panic” attack in a conversation where things are going great, and then suddenly you just run dry of things to talk about? I’ll show you exactly why this happens to you, and what to do to erase it from your mind…
The two factors that sabotage most approaches guys do – and how you know when you’re sabotaging yourself with women…
Getting better with women is sometimes about changing what you’re doing so that you do what works. But how do you know when NOT to change your approach with women? I’ll tell you this, and why a lot of “pickup artists” do much worse than average guys when they make this mistake…
The “Placebo Principle of Pickup” that shoots guys in the foot before they know what’s happened when they talk to women…
ONE simple tool and principle that you can put to use right away, and dump 90% of the stuff you’ve learned to say to women – and get ten times more success with what you use…
The Secret of Fast Exchanges – and how this technique works in real conversation with women…
The primary difference between “masculine” and “feminine” conversation – and how guys can use her “inner language” to build massive attraction and deep connection with her – even if she just met the hottest guy in the room before you…
My own “KT” Technique spelled out and explained completely (with examples) that you can use to keep talking and never run out of things to say…
The simple “Fall Back” Tool I used for all my nights out talking to women – and how I used it as an “emergency chute” to keeping the conversation flowing and clicking…
I’ll pass on to you the “Laugh at the Elephant Trick” – my one simple method for handling an unexpected silence in a conversation with a women where you’ll both end up laughing about it together… (and if you don’t have this – or another – technique to handle this, you’ll have failed a